Irruption Of A Nation
Getting to the point of self-realization and loving ones self is one of life’s struggles. The reason why this is more difficult for some than others is usually formed early in childhood. The family you are born to and the environment you are born in, play a major role in your attitude towards yourself. In the early stages of life, you are at the mercy of everyone you come into contact with. Those people can either be positive or negative. That is where your environment comes into play; you will be further along in your journey to self realization if you are in an environment conducive to positivity. In an environment where negativity is prevalent, the road is a lot tougher. You have seen the parent that encourages the child (“you are going to be great you can do anything you put your mind to”). Then you’ve seen the parent that puts down the child (“you are so dumb you can’t do anything right”). The positive parent allows the child to be free with a positive attitude to focus more on his/her self. The negative parent has created a hurdle for the child making it more challenging to focus because of that negativity that’s now looming in his/her mind. The positive parent has planted a seed in which a more self- assured child can grow. The negative parent has planted a seed where an impressionable child’s growth is stunted. To be continued…….
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Though I agree with your point of view, I feel one can seperate oneself from the person that has either intended to build or brake us…. We must realize and accept that our Happiness and Freedom depends on us as Individuals. It is our choice….
I definitely agree with this….. U hit the hammer on the head. However I think that it needs to be clarified that even though those things are very true and affects people, we have to realize that our happiness is solely determined by ourself. If you have been around d negative forces majority of your life if not all, you have to say enough I’m tired of feeling negative I’m tired of someone dictating my feelings, my happiness. At the end of the day we have to remember that their opinions do not matter nobody can make you happy if you aren’t happy with yourself! That’s where self realization comes into play! I loved this article
I can agree with what you are saying and mostly true … but i believe even though you grow up in a free and positive environment you can still have a tough time finding self realization and vice versa in a negative environment
Self realization is a lot deeper than just making a decision. Deeper than just separating yourself from the negative. That actually solves nothing. Love it and the path you are creating!! Keep going… Can’t wait to see more from you!
I Think that this can be true in most cases but everyone is set up differently and self esteem plays a big role in this. Your parents can talk till they are blue in the face with how great you’ll be but if you don’t love and believe in yourself sometimes it doesn’t happen or they were talked to negatively or bullied by kids at school that makes them have low self esteem.
Sure everyone is set up differently and can struggle finding themselves. the question is: would you rather find yourself in a positive environment or a negative one?
True! Things that affect you negatively can also drive you to find yourself. This article was more about setting a positive mindset for the obstacles a child will face in life on the route to self realization.
Absolutely loved this article. We has people often say “WHAT” shouldn’t bother us or “HOW” one should deal. No one can speak for anyone until your in that situation. Everyone gets “self realization” at different times. Some are so tormented until they never get it and are too embarrassed to seek help for it. Its easy to say separate yourself, but if you haven’t dealt with the bottom line, surrounding yourself by positive people still won’t help.
I know someone, close to me who dealt with the name calling and being told you ain’t ish, and up until she began to build her faith did she no longer accept those words. It took 37 years for that deliverance. So people heal on their timing.
But article was great and will bring awareness to some. Can’t wait for more
is is interesting, because I am a single parent of 5 children and they are all raised the same way. Some are more confident than others. I have an aspiring singer/actress/dancer who loves to be the center of attention, I have a fighter and gymnast who can be the center of attention, but it won’t bother them if they are or not, and I have one that will buckle at her knees if the light is shined on her, and one who just has no care at all. Although they were all raised the same some have confidence where others do not. Some crave having friends and the others do not care because they have me and each other. It’s strange how our minds work
Everyone is born with their own individuality. I’m sure you give them a relaxed environment that allows them to be them.
Agreed but there are also those strong individual few that break the cycle of doubt.
I agree with you and most of the other commentators that stated that it’s more than just environment and circumstances. Although I will say that it seems like many people believe that you ultimately are in charge of ur life but don’t understand how heavy negative influences effect you when ur young. Yes you can make a choice to do this or that but if you look at the majority of people who grow up under negative reinforcement they usually become disengaged, follow a negative path (permanently) or break free after some life altering event. That’s where religion usually comes into play but that’s another topic. Great read. Keep it going man.
Definitely an area of my life that I seem to struggle with during my late teenage years until early 20s. It wasn’t until i was pregnant that I realized I even struggled with this area. It wasn’t a present struggle thankfully. It hit me as an empty on the inside feeling when it came time for me to walk successfully in my motherhood. I realized I was a parent not willing to subject my daughter to the negative impressions I encountered. I never forget speaking to my “play grandma” about it and she reassured me that no parent is perfect and along the way you will learn and make mistakes. She told me to search within myself, pray, and build my relationship with God then watch how everything plays out. We have to learn how to “stop and smell the roses” in order to step out of ourselves to clear our minds from childhood issues that have held us hostage from improvement, growth, and love. Self-love is important in to experience success on conquering that emptiness. Whether you grew up in a loving or unloving household we all control the desire to welcome love from oneself and others. I know my comment is all over the place so for that I apologize lol
We all have to have positivity within ourselves before seeking outside acceptance. I do agree with this read which was great.
I love this read. Learn to Love and forgive and Live. Great advice
I absolutely agree with this sentiment. I grew up in a controversial environment, on one hand my mother (the positive person that she is) attempting to speak a better life for me into existence, and on the hand, the reality that i lived said otherwise. There were definitely times where I went left field, veering off from the positive foundation that my mother bestowed upon me; getting into the street life, hanging around the “wrong crowds”. To me, after a while, being in the streets was second nature. There were points in time where i actually embraced my arena and excelled (making a few dollars if you know what I mean). What I found out, really quickly, is that things are not always as they seem. Before I knew it , people I knew were dying, going to jail, and that positive foundation held me together. I said all of that to say this: No matter what we go through in life, besides our genetic make-up, the seeds that are planted early in our lives can positively as well as negatively affect our decision making, even our lives as adults. Great read!
This is very true but even if you have a difficult upbringing you can still live a positive life and beat the odds. Some children who grow up in a dysfunctional home grow up to have a loving family of their own because they try not to repeat or relive what they seen growing up.
This article definitely hit home. My parents were definitely not supportive or encouraging. They purchased me lots of things much to my disdain. However, I took the things that I was lacking and gift those to others who might be lacking too. I’m supportive and encouraging to each person I meet. I work in non-profits with homeless Veterans who I feel are the forgotten people. Everyone is deserving of love, attention, and support. While I lack those things in my own life I have an overabundance to share with others which has subsequently made me able to withstand things that I thought would surely break me. I am 100%? No. However, I am definitely much more aware and equipped to deal with life’s struggles. Three time cancer survivor!
Very good article, although I’m along the lines of it takes a village in some cases. I feel that people who have become successful and are from struggling neighborhoods have an obligation to give back. There’s only so much parents can do; many kids overcome life struggles in spite of.
Some do overcome in spite of but the goal is to create a good environment for a child. Percentage wise which way do you think would be more productive?